I set myself up for failure

Help... scream.......   thanks for reading

Okay... so it has become a holiday tradition that I make goodie trays for my dh family and a few others.    So i thought... no problem, I can't eat it...I will dump....

Today I made 5 batches of peanut and cashew brittle and 2 batched of chocolate rice kripy treats.  
I have ingredients for cookies, fudge, ritz peanut things..... aaaarrgggg

I had a small piece of brittle today and a rice crispy treat....   Nope NO DUMPING>>> NO PROBLEM.....   i am ready for the holidays to be over..... We don't have the money for gifts so I will still do the goodies but ....eekkkk... I need some self control...

Anyone else not have dumping how did you handle it?  
Or any other advice and encouragement would be appreciated........

I have the band, so I don't have dumping per say. I have dumping like feelings with eggs, breads, and fruit juices though. But on the average most banders don't have dumping syndrome. So being a little over 3 years post op..... I can tell you that the Holiday's are... well a mind over matter thing basically. You just have to convince and tell yourself that it's just not worth it, you are better then eating that and then emotionally beating yourself up for what the physical effects can be from eating a whole lotta of what you shouldn't have. You just tell yourself, 'NO". I'm being as serious as I can be. It's YOU. You have to be in control into changing your life C O M P L E T E L Y to make your surgery work. Kinda think of it as like recovering from a drug addiction and your just got out of rehab and so no you are back in the real world and everything that's on your "NO" list from the surgery doctor is basically ..... your drugs. Now fight to stay sober. You are better then that sugary food. You are more important. You are more smarter. You are beautiful. You seriously are. This is your recovery... your soberity per say. Tell that sugary food NO. 

Blessings
Jodi 

Jodi, you did one heck of a good job explaining it.  I appreciate that so much.

Dani,  I am in the same boat as you.  I went yesterday to my family Christmas and just had to try a bit of a candy that my sister made.  I didn't get sick or dump.  I am just feeling emotionally bad that I HAD to test the waters.  I have been so good for 7 months.  I know now that I just cant do the taste testing any more.  I am gonna have to just say NO

 

Keep your chin up and remember that what Jodi said makes so much sense.  It's a drug and I was severely addicted.  I am not looking back.  I have come too far to make myself miserable again.

Huge hugs,
Tracy

Hey there~

I'm only just a few days out, so I haven't experienced exactly this yet, but I'm sure I will--hopefully in the way far off distance...know what I mean?!   From what I've read on these boards before is that just because you don't dump on something doesn't mean that you won't the second, third, or fourth time??  None of us are going to be perfect at this food thing....otherwise we would have never needed the surgery to begin with, right?!  As for me, I'm just being super careful right now...being such a little ways out, I don't dare threaten my new litte stomach.  There will be a time I'm tempted...I'm sure of it. 
It does have to be scary about eating those sugary sweets and not having any dumping side effects.  Try not to beat yourself up about it though.  Some other thoughtful poster told me not that long ago to not beat myself up over a poor food choice I had made before surgery, because let's face it, if we were more in control of our eating patterns, we would not be looking towards WLS as a viable option.  I know I wouldn't. 
Hopefully you won't have too many more temptations during these holidays, but maybe somehow you'll be better prepared for them when they do happen.  Just my 2 cents! 
Good luck to you! 

I know it's hard honey... We had my DH families Christmas dinner at our house on Saturday and I had to cook for everyone, whi*****luded the iced sugar cookies and a huge cake.  It was so difficult and I can't say I resisted temptation either.  Over the past two days I had a whole piece of cake and 3 sugar cookies.  No dumping.  I realized I HAD to send the left overs home with everyone.  My husband has saved a few sugar cookies for himself.  I just didn't have the will power to resist, and I had a cookie yesterday morning. Finally I just asked him to get the cookies out of the house.  He's great about that, and threw them away immediately. 

It is like a drug...and right now, I just have such a hard time resisting, I have to get it out of my sight.  We have 2 more Christmas dinners this week, and I'm sure I'm going to be tempted, in fact I know I will.  Just take it one day at a time, and know tomorrow is a new day.

My suggestion, get the goodies made, get them boxed up, and get the out of the house.

Not much help, but I wanted you to know you're not alone.



Thanks to Jodi, I also needed to hear what you shared.

Blessing to you all...I'll pray we can all resist the temptations this week.

Jenn

I know for myself  (I'm 3 1/2 years out) that I don't always dump, but sometimes I do.   And it can be on the strangest things.....a dinner roll for instance!   But I also know that if I have a little I want a lot!   I send EVERYTHING sweet home with other people.   If it doesn't go home, it goes to the trash.  The first year out, I would even dump just having the sugar in the air!   I made snickerdoodles and couldn't even get through baking them before I was on the bed rocking and crying like a baby!    I think of it as a game, mind over matter.  If you resist, you can get the same (or better) high that you would have had if you ate what you were thinking about eating!   Even if you have to talk to yourself to get through something, DO IT!   I say "I can resist, I can resist, I can resist" over and over and my DH knows what is going on.  Kind of funny!

 

You ladies are so great!!!   Jodi you are sooo right, it is mind over matter and I CAN do this. 

I truly appreciate all the support and love I get here.... thanks

The only thing I can say is "I FEEL YA' GIRL!!"
I go to a very small church and my class exchanges names, so its inevitable that you know alot about the person you get......so when I got my name....I knew exactly what he wanted.....my homade cookies.....HAH!!
I made 3 dozen of my home-made sugar cookies and chocolate chip cookies.....and if that wasnt torture.  I don't even crave sweets, and when I eat something sweet, (sf pudding) I don't even like it.  But I dont know ANYONE that can make cookies and not want to try one....
I didnt try any, 1) because I am 6 weeks out and 2) because i hate and going to the , and i used the icons becaue i even hate talking about it!! 

but i did put a tiny tiny peice in my mouth and then i spit it out immediately once i thought of the consequences, because i know if it doesnt make me sick, i would have eaten several cookies....

now, i know this was about commiserating with the topic, but i invite you to read my latest post "Please send me your prayers"........ It just proves that we are human, and it really is "mind over matter"

Much love,
Katie Ann

I too have tested the waters this holiday season..ugh ugh ugh.  I haven't dumped either.  I was so hoping that I would be one of the lucky ones who dump on sugar.  As of tomorrow I am pulling my head out of my ass and gettting back to the basics.  I am so close to being out of the 200's its not even funny, but here I go trying to sabotoge myself!!  

Tomorrow is a new day, however a wise person told me once that it doesn't make any sense to waiting until tomorrow to change things, the time to start is this instant.  So as of this second I am doing what I know I need to do.  This is so hard, but we can do it.

Jeannie

While reading through this thread, my first reaction is why is everyone making this stuff in the first place!? 

And honestly, I am just as guilty as the rest because I have made some sugary stuff this year.  But I am not going to kid myself -- I made it for myself as much as I did for my family.  If I could get over my own cravings for wanting the stuff I would have no problem telling my family that I am not making it for them!  But unfortunately, I found out in the first 6 months after my RNY that I don't dump so I have been struggling with sugar ever since. 

And there are more candy and cookies that I would like to make, but I am not because I know I don't need them around and neither does my family.  Someone will always make that stuff, it doesn't have to be me.  And if no one happens makes the cookies and candies -- we will still have a wonderful Christmas  -- just a bit healthier!

So if you truely don't want it around, make this the year that you put yourself before everyone else and tell them that you aren't making that junk anymore!  Just because we always did it before doesn't mean we have to still do it now.  The rules have changed and it is time to do what is best for YOU!  The temptation is just too strong to be around that stuff -- I know because I fall prey to it myself!  So instead, learn to make sugar free treats.  Or learn to knit or make other crafts for gifts for something that doesn't revolve around food. 

And from someone who struggles with sugar on a daily basis, if you haven't tested to see if you dump yet -- NEVER go there!  Post-op life was much easier when I still thought I would dump if I had sugar.

OK, I am going back to lurkdom and try to practice what I preach!!!

Jennifer